Is anyone actually made for another?
Thoughts…
Many people believes that the ‘If this person is not for me’ prayer works faster than any other prayer. It’s been proven with different stories as evidence.
I once made this prayer in one of my friendships— for a friend who was turning to a sister— and in few weeks, something happened and we stopped being friends. So yes, I can say it works. But the question is, “Is anyone actually made for another?”
In weddings, people always make declarations to the ‘love of their life’— how they are so glad to have found them, how their life would have been incomplete without them, how they are specifically made for them.
Not to sound melancholic, but I ask again, ‘Is anyone actually—or rather, I should paraphrase—is anyone specifically made for another?’
Do we have only one great love, one person created just for us? A missing rib? Do we have?
If yes, then what happens if the person suddenly dies before we meet them? Would we remain single forever?
If yes, what happens if the person have a strictly different belief system, pattern of thoughts and behaviour that does not align with our being?
So again, I ask, is anyone specifically made for another?
I don’t think so. I think it’s beyond predestination and fate. I think it takes two to tango. It takes two to commit. Because you see, even if fate pulls two people together, it takes their effort to seal the fate.
I don’t want to dispute the potency of the ‘If this person is not for me’ prayer but I think no one is actually made for you.
No one is specifically created in this life to bring happiness to your life without tiny traces of discomfort or sadness. What propels the strength and durability of a friendship or relationship is not just because they were specially created to be our friends, no, I don’t believe that. I believe that we choose to stay with some people amidst the difficulties only through love, effort, forgiveness and hard work.
And maybe this prayer works like magic— like a lightning because the moment we make this prayer, we form this idea in our head that makes us pull back from the beautiful friendship we have been building. And then, when an issue comes up days or weeks after the prayer, we jump and conclude that it's the answer to our prayer instead of trying to sort out the problem.
This might not sit right with you, but these are just my thoughts and that doesn't mean it has to be right. I'm in no way perfect, you know.
So, do you think humans are specially made for another person—just like Adam and Eve? Tell me your thoughts, I would love to know.
"There's a man for every woman, there's a woman for every man", where's my own?
Long ruminated over this so-called idea of 'onites'. I used to be a strong believer, especially due to religious or cultural influences. I realize that anything that works takes careful planning, hard work, and consistency; this has been the only truth that has tested the taste of time. Relationships, companies, Earth, etc, the default state of everything is ruin, dilapidation, and chaos.